Friday, August 21, 2009

Embryo Adoption

Wow, I never thought I'd really be thinking seriously about something like this! I remember hearing about Snowflakes on Christian radio 5 or 6 years ago. Of course, I probably hadn't even met my husband yet so I really didn't think about it at all. In fact, yesterday was the first time it came back into my mind. I was talking to my oldest sister on the phone and she suggested that I might adopt an embryo with a negative blood type.

For those of you that don't know, I have Rh disease, which means that if I carry a baby with a positive blood type, antibodies in my blood may attack the baby's blood. My body created the antibodies during the 3rd trimester of my first (and only) baby. I had refused the Rhogam shot at 28 weeks and had planed to get it after the baby was born. If you have negative blood, get the shot at 28 weeks, the alternative is very difficult if you get antibodies like I did.

Right now we do not know if my husband has positive/positive blood or positive/negative blood. If the former is the case, we will never have a child with negative blood. If the latter is the case, we have 50% chance that each of our children will have negative blood.

As for now we have decided to try to have another child -praying for a good outcome! I still fear the worst, although I know I should give it to God. He is the one who opens and closes the womb. He is the one who knew I would have antibodies. He is the one who kept Haven safe from them while she was inside me.

I keep going back the the option of adoption. I've always wanted to adopt, since I was a teenager. I never imagined I might HAVE to adopt to have more children. I wanted to choose adoption just because I wanted to adopt.

From what I've learned about embryo adoption, I think it's amazing. You get to carry the child, give birth to the child, breastfeed the child... I was just curious if they would even let me into the program since I do have Rh disease and the embryo MUST have negative blood. So I sent them this question:

Hi, I have a D antibody that could cause harm to any child I carry that has a positive blood type. However, if I carry a child with a negative blood type, it will be a normal pregnancy. I was wondering if you work with women like me who would like to adopt an embryo with a negative blood type. (If both the parents have a negative blood type, the child will certainly have a negative blood type.) My husband and I are going to try to have another child on our own (we have one child already), but if the outcome is bad, we are thinking about adoption. A friend of mine just pointed out that I could possibly adopt an embryo with a negative blood type and I would be able to carry it myself and breastfeed it and have all those wonderful new baby experiences. Please let me know if you think this is even possible. Thank You, Summer

This is the response I received:

Hi Summer,
Thank you for contacting us. From the information that you have provided us, I see no reason why you would not be an eligible candidate for our Snowflakes Program. Our only requirement would be that your doctor provides a letter stating that you have no contraindications to pregnancy. I have attached our information packet for you to review if you would like. Please let me know if you have any additional questions.
We wish you the best on your next pregnancy and hope that everything goes smoothly. In the future, if you do decide you are ready to adopt, we would be pleased to work with you.

I am really excited to have this option and I plan on learning as much about it as I can. These embryos are frozen in time, waiting for life. Their parents have decided not to have more children. I think it's an amazing program. What do you think?


Miss W said...

Wow, that's a lot to digest. What does DH think about it?

thecreasycrew said...

Wow! Summer! Remind me to tell you a story of a girl i used to work with and a blood disorder she had and what they did!

Summer said...

thecreasycrew- PLEASE TELL ME!

Miss W.- He doesn't like talking about adoption that much because he is afraid of me giving up on having our own kids. It makes me feel better to talk about it because I know that *if* we can't have our own kids, we can adopt.

Kelly said...

Thanks for leaving a comment on my blog ( I think embryo adoption is a great option. I know a few couples who have either adopted embryos or used an egg and/or sperm donor.

As for your Rh. A friend of mine has this and had 4 children. She didn't have any miscarriages. Her husbands blood type must have been perfect as they didn't have any complications.

Best of luck to you.

embieadoptmom said...

We are currently doing an embryo adoption. I will transfer 2 of our 6 adopted embies on October 22nd. We did not go through Snowflakes as it was about $10,000-$15,000. We found our sweet embies on Our entire process will cost around $4,000. My blog is linked with several embryo adoption blogs done many different ways if you are researching and interested! Best to you! EA is a MIRACLE!